In my mother’s garden


My mother passed away unexpectedly on 27 June.

It does seem rather strange to list this here…it is not one of my favourite things. 

We had her services on Saturday and our goal was to follow her wishes…

She wanted the loved ones who attended to remember her with joy and laughter.

We chose uplifting songs at the church…not too uplifting though.

The church was packed! I don’t think there was a seat left.

And we hosted her friends and family to a party at the Boston Yacht Club here in Marblehead.

It was a sunny and beautiful temperature day sandwiched between a whole bunch of rainy, stormy days.

I could hear people laughing and reminiscing as I walked about greeting everyone. 

Now we begin the process of healing and becoming accustomed to a life without her. 

It’s the simple things….

Making “salad” in a pail full of rain water.

There’s nothing like a group of toddlers to remind you that life goes on. 

The gardens are sort of a mess in the back garden. It’s been either teaming rain for weeks at a time or absolute scorching heat wave. When I do have a chance to get out there the thought of tending the plants without my mum just makes me so sad.
Even my window box has suffered so I don’t think it will ever come back. 
However, the flag on a foggy morning looked so pretty I couldn’t help but get a picture.

I have moved quite a few of my mum’s things into my house. 

It seems a bit strange to me but it’s kept me busy and I find it comforting to have her things about me. 

Sort of like Maureen O’Hara in The Quiet Man.

Verne, Natalie and I got a cute selfie in the garden while I was visiting them last night.

Abigail was moving too fast for me to get her into our photo.

The weather hasn’t been very good to gardeners this year.

It’s either a scorching heat wave or monsoon downpours.

But, Bonnie’s garden looks beautiful nonetheless. 

Friday’s fave fives


  1. again, I'm so sorry for the sudden death of your mother. Same thing happened to me in 2012. The suddenness was just so....shocking. Take the time you need to grieve and embrace our Comforter who gives us Strength. Prayers to you.

    Love the pic of you and the grands....Verne is growing up so fast!!

    My sister-in-law/bro in law live on the south shore Boston and yes you guys have had even more rain than we have here in NYS!! The first week of July it poured every day except once and the humidity levels are SO high even though the temps are good (high 70s/low 80s).

    LOVE the garden pic.

    Take care and have a restful weekend.

  2. Oh, I'm so sorry about your mom. The party and service in her memory sound very sweet. But you're right, the healing and processing takes a long time. Praying for God's grace for you through this time.

    It's so neat you have some of your mom's things to keep around you. And sweet grandchildren to hold and play with.

  3. It sounds like your Mom was very well loved in her community. Your room is so beautiful and inviting. i love the soft blue color of the walls. i hope that working with the kids will help your pain to lessen. Blessings.

  4. I'm sorry to hear of your loss but glad you're finding comfort in having your Mum's things close by.

  5. I am so sorry to hear about your mum's passing. No matter when or how, it is always hard. I can imagine your sadness at its unexpectedness.
    Garden progress here at my cottage has been hit and miss for the same reasons--rain and humid heat.
    I have many items from my parents' home--they bring good memories.
    Hugs your grandkids :)

  6. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious Mom. May God comfort you and your family and may the many happy memories of a life well lived with her family bring joy and peace to you.

    It has been way hotter here than is usual. And now we are dealing with heavy smoke from forest fires in British Columbia.

  7. Your living room is lovely with just the right amount of sunlight coming in.
    Surround yourself with lovely things right now, and allow yourself to grieve.
    It takes time. The little ones will bring you joy when your heart is saddened.
    I lost my Mom many years ago, but she remains in my heart always.
    There's nothing like a Mother's love.



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